COMMENTS about this page: This is a quiz and an outline on personality that I have used many times with good success. I use the quiz as my outline. I hand a copy to each kid and have them follow along. At the end of this quiz is a more comprehensive outline on kicking off "personality".
Personality is like a fragrance. A bad personality is like an offensive odor. In reality our personality is the fragrance of our character. A composite of our habits. Are we attractive or are we repulsive?
- DO Smile! A smile costs nothing and is always appreciated.
- DON'T Ignore people. Even when you don't want to talk, be friendly when someone says "Hello!" or offers their hand.
- DO make people feel important. Make each person feel that he is special.
- DON'T Brag! No one, but no one like a person who brags! Be an honest person.
- DO have sense of humor! Laugh & the world laughs with you, cry & you cry alone!
- DON'T always have a problem ... or troubles ... or want help! You will soon be alone.
- DO encourage. Tell others what you like about them or what they are doing. Every one of us likes a compliment. (Not flattery!)
- DON'T criticize or cut down people (even yourself). Slam someone!
- DO have an interest in many things. Be an interesting person.
- DON'T grab the best, biggest, most for yourself! Give a break to others.
- DO meet strangers. It's hard. You can make a great friend by being friendly to someone you might not know.
- DON'T make fun of others when they make a mistake or do something dumb.
- DO help others when they have a problem.
- DON'T be an angry person. Looking for an argument or fight. Bad temper.
- DO look good. Clean, neat, groomed, clothing.
- DON'T blame others! Don't blame others for their mistakes or worse, for yours.
- DO keep a confidence. If someone tells you something in confidence, keep it to yourself ... tell no one.
- DON'T be cool! Cool people are never popular people ... they are too cool!
- DO listen and encourage.
- DON'T correct people.
- DO take a joke and be a good sport!
- DO be yourself.
- DO remember names!
- DO share what you have with others.
- DON'T be loud and physical.
- DO thank people ! ... AND BE FRIENDLY !
A GOOD PERSONALITY
A good personality is so important in life, and each one of us can have a good personality. Good news!! We don't have to be good looking or a great athlete or even smart. BUT IT COSTS! Here are some important do's and don'ts in gaining a good personality. Remember a good personality has nothing to do with whether we are tall or short, good looking or even ugly! Show me a friendly out-going cheerful person and I'll show you a well liked popular person!
ESSENTIAL ... is the need to be loved, needed, wanted, respected, known! VALUABLE ! If we don't feel loved or wanted, etc. it creates mega problems in the future in the area of behavior & personality. Insecurity. Low self esteem. Low self image, etc.
Life is tough out there!
FACT OF LIFE! I must earn what I want and need. God loves you unconditionally and Mother loves you unconditionally ... but everyone else loves you conditionally! You earn it baby!!
If I want to be loved I must be lovable. I must contribute to others. I must be worth knowing. I must be a plus.
PROBLEM KIDS: Pathetic! ... haven't a clue why people avoid them, or don't like being around them, or don't want them as friends.
So to compensate they get attention and/or perverted love ... by ...
- Attracting attention. Becoming a clown. Bragging, lying.
- Wild clothing, or buying friends, etc.
THE HANDICAP of being very good looking or cute!