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HOME » FOR TEACHERS AND YOUTH WORKERS » BOYS, MEN, AND LEADERS I run in Christian circles and travel to many Churches. More than fifty years of observing! I see things that I like ... and things I don't like. The following troubles me. I see a continuing lack of male leadership in the Churches. I see token men but not involved men. I see boys and girls being made by society into a unisex creation ... a progressive blending of the sexes. I have questions about what I see. Why are the most active members in any Church ... women? Why are the most powerful groups in the average church ... women's groups? Why are most of our teachers in Sunday School women? Where does the little boy in Sunday school look to find the model of a "Godly man" or a "male leader?" Why can't we keep our teen age boys in Church? Good questions that few are willing to address. FACT! Men come from boys and to get men and men leaders we must start at the boy level! FACT! Young boys today are hard pressed to find a man to model after. Fathers have little time or inclination to bond with their young sons. Mothers, especially single moms, are trying to be both mother and father. Boys are forced to find media examples ... electronic models and/or bond with their peers! What's worse ... this is no different in the Christian community. FACT! Women can't produce men ... they can only produce male babies and little boys. A male is what we are born ... a man is hopefully what we will become. Becoming a man is a complicated and lengthy inner process of developing manly traits through mature male contact, modeling and imprinting. A man or men have to be at the heart of this process of making a boy into a man ... a woman can't produce a man. FACT! The average Sunday School and/or Youth Program works against the recruiting and development of boys into men and strong male leadership. We are looking for passive students. Boys often are neither students or passive! Born leaders are not passive ... they are movers and shakers and unfortunately a threat to the novice teacher or young Youth Worker. Billy! Why can't you act more like Suzie? FACT! Most masculine boys (and natural boy leaders) leave the Church by the 8th or 9th grade and most will never return. FACT! We Evangelical Christians we have chased most of our potential (boy) male leadership off under the label of "trouble maker"! We have done this for years and continue to do it. We would rather have a quiet group of "Femiboys" or "Femimen." FACT! Unisex! Gender Tampering! There is a concentrated drive by a variety of agencies to neuter the male child "boy" ... to make a unisex creature that is in fact more feminine than masculine. Unisex is contrary to God, nature, history, ... even common sense! Man made "by-sexuality "is incredibly dangerous. We see this trend in books, T.V, Schools, Pre-schools, etc.. God created gender! God calls for a distinction between the sexes! The U.S and Europe are in "gender" trouble, and this is only the tip of the iceberg! This perversion is drifting into the churches without opposition! Boys, teens and many men are confused between what they are and who they are! ... many becoming candidates for the Gay and bisexual community. SOLUTION? If this is true then what is the solution ... what can we do? 1. It's essential that we admit that we have this problem in the Church and that it's getting worse. 2. The Church must go back to the Scripture and re-define male and the place of male leadership in that institution (Lets look at Jewish history too.) We are again caught bending to the culture when we should be changing it. 3. We have to educate and convince father that he must change and rearrange his priorities making an effort to become his son's model and mentor. Spending healthy time with his young son in masculine activity. Bond with his son. Divorce compounds the problem especially for the young boy! Divorce opens the door of confusion to a very vulnerable boy. 4. Organize a Christian "Big Brothers" program that will challenge boys to become godly men. 5. In Sunday School we must (again) have visible male leadership ... and male teachers for boys 9 years old to 18 years old. Curriculum must be created to meet the boys needs as well as the girls needs. Curriculum written by men for boys and men. 6. Have more masculine activities (sports, etc.) aimed exclusively at boys. Encourage boys to become men by having them read books oriented to boys/men ... or show videos oriented to boys/men ... talks by leading male sports heroes. Masculine as defined by the following seven words: Courage, daring, challenge, competition, outdoor, danger and adventure. Activities that are geared around those areas. These are traditional boy things ... these are man things. What ever happened to Tom sawyer and Huck Finn? We used to use the phrase "Boys will be boys" ... now boys can't be boys! Woman by in large have drummed this concept out! 7. Emphasize and recruit boys in the youth program ... and there will always be girls. Go after a masculine youth man otherwise you will end up with a "Girls Club." Nothing wrong with a girls club but don't call it a youth group. I have seen very few "boys clubs" that said they were youth groups. 8. Give the boys and young men you do have, leadership training and leadership opportunities. 9. Essential: Create sessions, classes, seminars, programs ... (whatever) on the making of a man! Answering the question that all boys ask ... What is a man? Develop a discipleship program that will include the making of a man. A male is what he is ... a man he must become! The following traits are essential to being a real man. 1. Courage. 2. Self discipline. 3. Responsibility. 4. Morality. 5. Integrity, 6. Learning and 7. Leadership! Define the difference between being a masculine man (above traits) and a macho man (physical/arrogance/pride & sex) In these sessions show and discuss primitive rites of passage to demonstrate the hunger a young man has to prove raw courage and discipline.

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I run in Christian circles and travel to many Churches. More than fifty years of observing! I see things that I like ... and things I don't like. The following troubles me. I see a continuing lack of male leadership in the Churches. I see token men but not involved men. I see boys and girls being made by society into a unisex creation ... a progressive blending of the sexes. I have questions about what I see. Why are the most active members in any Church ... women? Why are the most powerful groups in the average church ... women's groups? Why are most of our teachers in Sunday School women? Where does the little boy in Sunday school look to find the model of a "Godly man" or a "male leader?" Why can't we keep our teen age boys in Church? Good questions that few are willing to address.

FACT! Men come from boys and to get men and men leaders we must start at the boy level!

FACT! Young boys today are hard pressed to find a man to model after. Fathers have little time or inclination to bond with their young sons. Mothers, especially single moms, are trying to be both mother and father. Boys are forced to find media examples ... electronic models and/or bond with their peers! What's worse ... this is no different in the Christian community.

FACT! Women can't produce men ... they can only produce male babies and little boys. A male is what we are born ... a man is hopefully what we will become. Becoming a man is a complicated and lengthy inner process of developing manly traits through mature male contact, modeling and imprinting. A man or men have to be at the heart of this process of making a boy into a man ... a woman can't produce a man.

FACT! The average Sunday School and/or Youth Program works against the recruiting and development of boys into men and strong male leadership. We are looking for passive students. Boys often are neither students or passive! Born leaders are not passive ... they are movers and shakers and unfortunately a threat to the novice teacher or young Youth Worker. Billy! Why can't you act more like Suzie?

FACT! Most masculine boys (and natural boy leaders) leave the Church by the 8th or 9th grade and most will never return.

FACT! We Evangelical Christians we have chased most of our potential (boy) male leadership off under the label of "trouble maker"! We have done this for years and continue to do it. We would rather have a quiet group of "Femiboys" or "Femimen."

FACT! Unisex! Gender Tampering! There is a concentrated drive by a variety of agencies to neuter the male child "boy" ... to make a unisex creature that is in fact more feminine than masculine. Unisex is contrary to God, nature, history, ... even common sense! Man made "by-sexuality "is incredibly dangerous. We see this trend in books, T.V, Schools, Pre-schools, etc.. God created gender! God calls for a distinction between the sexes! The U.S and Europe are in "gender" trouble, and this is only the tip of the iceberg! This perversion is drifting into the churches without opposition!

Boys, teens and many men are confused between what they are and who they are! ... many becoming candidates for the Gay and bisexual community.

SOLUTION? If this is true then what is the solution ... what can we do?

1. It's essential that we admit that we have this problem in the Church and that it's getting worse.

2. The Church must go back to the Scripture and re-define male and the place of male leadership in that institution (Lets look at Jewish history too.) We are again caught bending to the culture when we should be changing it.

3. We have to educate and convince father that he must change and rearrange his priorities making an effort to become his son's model and mentor. Spending healthy time with his young son in masculine activity. Bond with his son. Divorce compounds the problem especially for the young boy! Divorce opens the door of confusion to a very vulnerable boy.

4. Organize a Christian "Big Brothers" program that will challenge boys to become godly men.

5. In Sunday School we must (again) have visible male leadership ... and male teachers for boys 9 years old to 18 years old. Curriculum must be created to meet the boys needs as well as the girls needs. Curriculum written by men for boys and men.

6. Have more masculine activities (sports, etc.) aimed exclusively at boys. Encourage boys to become men by having them read books oriented to boys/men ... or show videos oriented to boys/men ... talks by leading male sports heroes. Masculine as defined by the following seven words: Courage, daring, challenge, competition, outdoor, danger and adventure. Activities that are geared around those areas. These are traditional boy things ... these are man things. What ever happened to Tom sawyer and Huck Finn? We used to use the phrase "Boys will be boys" ... now boys can't be boys! Woman by in large have drummed this concept out!

7. Emphasize and recruit boys in the youth program ... and there will always be girls. Go after a masculine youth man otherwise you will end up with a "Girls Club." Nothing wrong with a girls club but don't call it a youth group. I have seen very few "boys clubs" that said they were youth groups.

8. Give the boys and young men you do have, leadership training and leadership opportunities.

9. Essential: Create sessions, classes, seminars, programs ... (whatever) on the making of a man! Answering the question that all boys ask ... What is a man? Develop a discipleship program that will include the making of a man. A male is what he is ... a man he must become! The following traits are essential to being a real man. 1. Courage. 2. Self discipline. 3. Responsibility. 4. Morality. 5. Integrity, 6. Learning and 7. Leadership! Define the difference between being a masculine man (above traits) and a macho man (physical/arrogance/pride & sex) In these sessions show and discuss primitive rites of passage to demonstrate the hunger a young man has to prove raw courage and discipline.